Tuesday, August 21, 2018

Silence IS NOT Always Golden...

Dear Ones,

When I was growing up, there was a saying I heard often, which was "silence is Golden". As a mom, we wish for silence from time to time, in fact, we search it out.  As teachers, we want our students to be quiet and focus on what we are teaching them. Having lived in the hotel in Italy for almost three weeks, I am craving the peace and quiet of a craft room, in a villa, by the beach, AND a Catholic Church family to call my own... so far away from home.

When things get bad, I get quiet. It's who I am. I have to think it out, process it. I have a fear of sounding like a lunatic whiner.... and I don't like pity, because pity fades, and we want to be strong and show love and be loved... you know?

And then I read, Psalms 83:

Psalm 83

Prayer for Judgment on Israel’s Foes

A Song. A Psalm of Asaph.

O God, do not keep silence;
    do not hold your peace or be still, O God!
Even now your enemies are in tumult;
    those who hate you have raised their heads.
They lay crafty plans against your people;
    they consult together against those you protect.
They say, “Come, let us wipe them out as a nation;
    let the name of Israel be remembered no more.”
They conspire with one accord;
    against you they make a covenant—

You can find the rest of Psalms 83 by clicking on the link above.  I believe the Devil is after MY CHURCH and that crafty fallen angel has infiltrated it in an evil way. And we must call one one another and Our Lord, Our God to slay this enemy and rid our church of it.

TODAY, I can no longer be quiet.... I have been silenced long enough.

When I was in my early 20's, sitting across from an older relative, I listened to this person say to my father, what a great job he'd done with us kids (he had custody because our mother was an abusive alcoholic).  In their conversation, I also heard this person say that they knew she was abusing us and that terrible things had gone on in our home, but they "didn't know what to do about it". Um, may I remind you these were adults - well into their 40's or so when I was born.

What in the absolute hell do you mean that you KNEW and did nothing about it? is what I said, as I stood up. I said, "dad, we are leaving!" He was stunned. The whole room was quiet. I was shaking. I had to go. The enormity that someone could have helped us or "saved us" and didn't... was too much for me while I was still in college. It's really too much for me now, if I'm being honest.

So you will understand without my having to describe it... I will only say this once... my mother used me as bait for her boyfriends, mostly older married men, as young as the age of 8/9, that I can remember. I thankfully have gotten a lot of counseling, and have a strong faith. She was sick. Truly mentally ill. I forgave her, but I never went around her because in her mind, she blamed me. SICK!  It turns out, for the record, that no one knew things were THAT bad. They just knew she was abusive. But to me, it never excused their silence.

And then there are times when we are called to raise our voices.  Fast forward to recent headlines in the Catholic Church, and my heart breaks as I cringe in solidarity - a messed up solidarity - with these victims. I never persecuted my mother and her boyfriends, though I did know all their names. Back then, it would not have been appropriate and I didn't want to hurt my grandmother and people who didn't know... especially my siblings.

This current abuse is NOT about me. I know this. But my questions are the same...

  • How could anyone who purports to love God and children take advantage of and abuse them mentally, physically, sexually? WHY?!!! I will never, ever understand it.
  • How could ANYONE who knew these people were hurting children and others, and NOT DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT?

To me, both are equally wrong. But let's say the person doing these bad things is mentally ill, because honestly, not me - it's a disgusting illness that no right-minded person would partake in.  The other people,  the ones who cover it up - they are almost WORSE!

These accused Priests were shepherds of a flock. They are supposed to guide us and look for the lost 1 of 99... and show us the ways of God and be our example. May God have mercy on their souls.

I want to go to these victims in our church and hug them, cry with them, tell them they did nothing wrong, that I understand why they didn't speak up until now... and that I love them all. They should not be embarrassed. They should not be shamed to silence. They should be applauded for standing up for themselves.  If you are a victim and you are reading this - I stand with you. I am praying for you. I am so sorry....and I understand... maybe not fully, my abuser was my mother, not my Priest.  I think no less of you. I love you. I really do. Reach out. Please... reach out.

Having said all that - I would love for you to join Catholic Bloggers and many Priests, and laypeople all over our country and world, who are praying and fasting for the victims, and for our Church, and yes, even for the perpetrators, for they are our brothers... we don't have to like what they did to know God calls us to pray for them.

Protect one-another. Pray for each other. Show love and kindness. And please, don't leave our Faith. As imperfect as leadership may be. Let's take our responsibility and no longer be complacent, but reticent and watchful.

I'm going to stop talking now and upload pics.
Please join us in prayer. Share the pics, use the hashtag #sackclothandashes

I will add the hashtag #silenceisnotalwaysgolden.










Please join in.
Hugs, Love and Many Blessings,
LadyEm




Tuesday, March 20, 2018

CWBN BlogHop - The Role of Women in the Catholic Church

Dear Ones,

We live in a world that would have us think our Church is backwards, sexist, and antiquated because women aren't Priests, because we don't marry same-sex couples, and a plethora of other reasons. But we must hold on to the truths in our Church and continue to honor the strong and faithful women who came before us, reaching as far back as the Old Testament, and live our lives on the path they forged for us.

Our Church began with a resounding YES from our Blessed Mother Mary.  That young girl, long ago, who gave her resounding yes to carry Our Lord in Her blessed womb. She helped start our Church, the first Church that all others have sprung from. She is our guide for what Women should be in our Church. She is our model in our Faith and how we live our lives.

We may not always get it right, like she did, but in our striving to do so, we change the path of our Parish Churches, by living our lives faithfully in our Domestic Churches.



In the CWBN BlogHop this month, on Allison's Blog, we are challenged to share our opinions on Strong and faithful women in the Catholic Church. I would encourage you to read articles like these:
When we think of Our Blessed Mother and all the Catholic Female Leaders who came before us, we think about things like their Faithful Example, Comforting in Motherhood and leadership, the way they forgave others, and their humility; but, mostly we admire them for their tenacity, integrity and their focused YES to Our God's direction and plan for their lives.


Probably my two favorite Catholic women role-models that formed my faith, besides Our Blessed Mother, have been Mother Angelica and Mother Teresa, now Saint Teresa of Calcutta.  I watched these women live their faithful lives (of course, from afar)... but I will never forget their examples. The way they reached out to the poor, the way they taught us to love the Lord, the way they admonished themselves and therefore our sinful nature and brought the reality of Christianity into our hearts, souls and our decisions in our Domestic Churches.

Christ ordained men to be Priests, so I will not discuss any chance of ANYONE in the True Catholic Church ordaining women Priests. I pray it never happens. And, if I am being honest I don't like to see women serving on the Altar at all, beyond the position of Cantor or Eucharistic Minister. HOWEVER, because of the shortage of men/boys to serve, I get that in some areas, for many reasons these things take place. And I will not speak out against it, except to say, it's not my preference.

There are MANY choices for women to influence our Church in leadership positions.  Women can become Nuns/Sisters. Women can serve on Financial Advisory Councils and other councils in our Church. In fact, there is a National Council of Catholic Women (and I'm assuming other groups as well). I am involved at the Parish/Diocesan Level in this group. There are many more ways we can serve as great role models, and I urge you to get a list and pray about what ways you can serve best.

Since 2011, I have taught 3rd Grade Religious Education, they call the position a Catechist.  Through this position, I have had the awesome task of teaching children about Our Lord and Our Faith.  I have volunteered through serving on the Altar Society, and in the Religious Formation Office as a Volunteer to help organize various church functions.  I have volunteered with Catholic Charities and the local food bank. We all have great roles we can play when we say YES to God and lead with love.

However, I think my most important function in our Church, as a woman... My biggest and most important role in the Catholic Church is the responsibility that God has given me is as WIFE and MOTHER.


As a mother, I am everything to my child. In this way, I can only hope to imitate our Blessed Mother in preparing my child for his life. You see, Faith Formation starts at home. What we do in our homes lays the very foundation for how our children approach their faith outside our homes. Before our children learn from others, they learn from us. So teach them well. Show them the unconditional love our Father asks us to live by. 

Do I get it right all the time? - NOPE. But I try. Is this about fancy meals and art and comparing myself to other mamas? - NOPE, not all the time. LOL It's about teaching my child about our faith in a way that weaves that faith into EVERY LITTLE THING WE DO.  And sometimes it's exhausting and more than I could manage if I was doing this by myself. BUT the Good Lord and many mamas I know - have been integral to a) my knowing what to do and b) my not losing my mind.

My free advice --

Find a small group of like-minded mamas and their like-minded families who understand what you are trying to accomplish by raising your children in your faith.  Give your children good examples of friends to play with, learn from, etc. AND give yourself the gift of women who understand and won't challenge everything you are trying to accomplish. This is a sanity saver. TRUST ME.

Those same women could be the women who build you and your marriage up when society doesn't understand what you are trying to accomplish in it.

What do I do? Amongst other things...
  • Love my husband, their father. Do right by him. Pray for him.
  • Love my children. Pray for them. Spend time with them. Listen. Talk. Pray more.
  • Over the years I have  -- 
    • Introduced Feast Days.
    • Read Catholic Children's Stories.
      • I read the Bible to my child every day, starting with Children's Bible stories for infants and toddlers - over and over again. As he got older, the stories got more detailed. Virtues and Commandments were introduced. 
    • Read Books on Virtues for children - and discussed them with my children (age appropriately).
    • Participated in Catholic Art projects. 
    • Homeschooled (though this is the last  year).
    • I am involved in our Parish, Diocese and Philanthropy. And therefore, so is he.
Most importantly - I lead by example and apologize when I get it wrong. LEAD THEM!  Just so you know, my husband has three children from previous marriage who I include as my children. We went through an annulment process, for those who may be concerned with the integrity of our marriage. I really owe no explanation, but I do intermittently use plurals when speaking of children. So there you have that.

I don't need to give you countless examples of how to raise your children and how to live out being a good wife and mother, because you've read blogs, books, etc.

Sisters, you have many options to lead and grow in the Catholic Church. Find what you love and do it. But while  you are having children - I implore you to concentrate on your husband and on them, and you will be doing exactly what God had lead you to do.

This includes those who work, run businesses, write books, etc. Bottom line - they put their family first. For sure. It's the way God intended it.

We must all learn to say YES to God. And to stand firm in our roles in the Catholic Church.


Lastly, I want to say that God does not ask me to deny I have more talents in addition to being wife and mother. I just want to put that out there, lest anyone not get where I am coming from.

I think I will go write a post about what I've learned since becoming a mom... about myself, the world, etc. I mean - the laughter that has ensued and the wisdom I've gleaned. HA! It's like Joan of Arc and Lucille Ball mixed with Saint Teresa of Calcutta and The Good Witch from the Wizard of Oz. Am I right? HAHA

Many blessings ALL!

Emily

Sunday, February 25, 2018

Leftover LaLapalooza - Or Do you Repurpose Food?


Happy Sunday Morning All,
Happy Second Sunday in Lent!

I'm hopping on really quickly with some frugal pantry advice.

Do you Repurpose Food? Some people call it leftovers, but my people don't like "leftovers"... so I call it repurposing food. HA! They even help invent meals. Aint' NOBODY got time (or money) to be snobby around here!!

Last evening, as I was purposing to use what I have for dinner I thought - "I have GOT to blog about this."

In our home, we have three people, so there are often leftovers. And when my husband travels, that number goes down to two. Y'all it would be so dang easy to blow the budget and order pizza or Chinese Food, but a) it's Lent and we are supposed to sacrifice, and b) we are holding ourselves more accountable for what we spend. SOOOO the long and short of it is, I had to find something to cook.

Additionally I am on my 3rd day of Antibiotics, recovering from Strep and Sinus Infection - you know, because one thing is not enough. I always have to overachieve... Anywhooooo...

Last night, I made a goulash of sorts. A perfect food for cold, rainy winter evenings. Filling, but not too fattening. Semi-Healthy (if you laden with veggies).

Do you know what Goulash is?


When I say, goulash of sorts, let me be clear... my definition is loosely based on the above, however, I am not a Hungarian, nor do I play one on TV.  (hahaha) AND there is no Paprika in this stew-ish meal.  But, it is teenager approved. So it works in our house.

Here is what's I did:

In the fridge, I found two oversized chicken breasts that my husband cooked. I cubed the chicken, then cut about 3/4 of one of the breasts into smaller cubes and set it aside (see repurpose #2 below).

For the Goulash I put about a tablespoon of olive oil into the bottom of a pan, chopped roughly half an onion up and used about a tablespoon of minced garlic and put those in the pan, let the onions cook a while and added the chicken, diced tomatoes, and cubed one yellow squash ad added it. Then I thought, Huh... what else can I add? I quite literally walked to the pantry, put some baked bbq beans in the mix, added cumin, garlic powder, and half a cup of water. I let it all simmer together, had the boy taste it, and he gave it the thumbs up (which frankly y'all is ALL that matters). He asked for it over bowtie pasta... And I served it layered, in bowls. Pasta, goulash and sprinkled some shredded cheese on it. You could add cilantro or whatever you want.

Here's a picture of it.

Emily Davis' Use What You Have Goulash
For the 2nd Repurpose of the chicken breasts, I made chicken salad for sandwiches (or crackers, or by it's-self). Here's what I did.

I took the smaller cubed chicken, added two grated boiled eggs, three small Vlasic dill pickles, and some garlic salt, Italian spices, basil and grated black pepper (all to taste), and lastly about three tablespoons of mayonnaise. Mixed it together and it's ready to go for a day or so of lunches.

Here are a couple of pictures of it:


Those of you who have children of cooking age, you can really engage their imaginations by challenging them to come up with a meal.  It can't be too funky, or no one will eat it. I was nervous about the bbq beans (which I had picked up a year ago, by mistake, thinking they were baked beans).

Lent is a good time to use what you have. With the extra we have, we are searching weekly adds, and purposing to fill a box with a certain $$ amount of groceries weekly. And... the money has to come from somewhere. Ya know?

A few years ago, I wrote this post: Frugal Pantry Tip - Repurposing Food. It's a pretty decent post. We have always been the kind of people who, even if we had the money, we hated to toss out food. It's just so wasteful. We both grew up in practical and poor-at-times households. And we make a practice to use what we have.

Plus there's this. I mean - how true is this quote from Pope Francis.


I also found this. Y'all it is STUNNING to me how much food is wasted. We really need to do a better job of using what we have, not buying what we don't need, AND thinking of others and what we could do for them if we don't waste.

We need to teach our children about not wasting and about how blessed they are to have enough food to eat. Christopher started volunteering and being involved in our local Foodbank at the age of three. YES three. He has packed back-packs for children who don't have. And though, he has never been hungry, he's heard the stories.


It is not my intention to bring you down, but to educate you and remind you of what we can all do better. You aren't alone if you waste, clearly... But here and now, decide to waste less. That's all.


I hope you enjoyed this.
And while I have your attention, let me know how you repurpose food. AND let me know if you would be interested in linking up to a regular recipe post about how to repurpose leftovers? It might be fun to share our made up recipes. <3

I hope to hear from you!

Love, hugs & Blessings,
Em

Friday, February 16, 2018

Meatless Friday - Whatcha Cooking?

Happy First Friday of Lent... the Friday after Ash Wednesday!

Today's first reading in my Magnificat, struck me:
Sirach 34:26; 35:3 -- A man who fasts for his sins, but then goes and commits them again: Who will hear his prayer, and what has he gained by his mortification? To refrain from evil pleases the Lord, and to avoid injustice is an atonement.
Folks, God knows we are going to sin... and in many cases, we will repeat sins (I may have sworn more than once.... SIGH); however, we are to busy ourselves with what pleases the Lord.  For me, I'm busy with my family and getting my life back in order. You?

As you know, today is a day of Abstinence in the Catholic Church.  We give up meat on Fridays in Lent.  My family gives up meat year round (with the exception of if we are traveling or we forget.... and then, we do a Family Rosary or another penance - as is the rule).

But I didn't come here to lecture you on how to do your Lent. I came to ask you what you're serving for dinner. So what's it going to be?

Tonight on my menu is Garlic Shrimp with Roasted Vegetables. Although, my vegetables will look more like onions, asparagus, yellow squash, portobello mushrooms, tomatoes and I think that's about it. <3  You see, we are also using what we have in an effort to clean out our Fridge/Freezer and Pantry.



Have I ever told you about the Pantry Challenge? I found Jessica's Blog maybe like ten years ago. Back then, it wasn't as "salesy".... I have introduced a few friends to the blog this past couple years and they don't like it as much as I did back when. But I like her style, I have some of her cookbooks, and I dig her logic. I've been doing the Pantry Challenge along with her since probably 2008-ish. It's a great way to use what you have and make room for new...  AND to go through and toss expired or old foods.   If you go to this post - HERE - it is the first post of this year's challenge. Informative!

Here are a couple links from my blog with great ideas for Meatless Meals:

Listen, mamas with young children or MANY children.  You do what you can to meet the Lenten meal requirements, within budget and time constraints. Maybe you order cheese pizza or veggie pizza OR make them as a family! Serve the children Mac-n-Cheese with apples on the side. It does NOT have to be fancy. Our youngest is 14... I can do the above and it's not hard. You know? I just want to make sure you know that.

Anywhoooo....

Have a great rest of your Friday!

Love and hugs,
Em

Wednesday, February 14, 2018

Let's Talk Lent - and K.I.S.S.

Happy Valentine's Day!
Happy Ash Wednesday!

Today, Catholics everywhere are lining up to receive ashes and begin our Lenten Season.  Yep, today is the day we receive the sign of the cross on our heads, in ashes. The ashes symbolize our sins and the cross symbolizes our Savior (our Biggest Blessing).

Of course, I woke up with a painful pimple - in just the right spot where Ashes would go. Hello Father, don't you want to touch that. HA I'm so sarcastic in my mind.

Anywhoooooo... Here's some Saint Mother Teresa Love.


And here are my thoughts on Lent:

This past Sunday I taught the lesson of Lenten Preparation to the third graders in my Religious Ed Class. We talked about traditions and things. But one of the most striking statements from the lesson was the Proclamation about the lesson that I wrote on the board (per the book). To me, it's the overarching theme of Lent:

During Lent, we prepare for Easter so that we may receive the new life of The Risen Christ. When we are Baptized, we receive new life. Lent is like Baptism, because during Lent we are born into new life.

We learned:
  • through sacrifice, we can actually learn to change our ways.
  • through prayer and fasting during Lent, we prepare our hearts to receive Jesus.
  • through Baptism and Lent, we receive new life.
  • by staying close to Jesus, in prayer, sacrifice and fasting, we can imitate Jesus (which is what we are called to do).
There was a time, when I was trying to live up to other's standards of what Lent or any Catholic Season/Holiday/Holy Day should look like. No more. I had fun doing all the crafty and great things with friends and family, but currently, I am all about the simple and precious.  I set myself up to fail and it was no one's fault but mine.

Pretend like this is an actual conversation:
Me: I'm going to do 475 different devotions, crafts and fun things this year.
Also Me: I can't get it all done.
My Husband: Don't get upset, cut something out.
Me: But all these people are doing hundreds of super human things for Lent and I'm only doing 20. HA
Do you recognize any part of that conversation?  Do you over-volunteer? Do you give too much or do too much, to the point you drive yourself and family crazy, then go stand in the corner and give yourself a time-out because you may or may not want to punch someone (namely yourself)?  -- if so PLEASE, I implore you - FIND PEACE! You are enough. You don't need to buy a fancy Lent journal or stress over which Catholic group you want to follow along in for Lent! You don't have to do all 75000 fun craft projects your friends are doing or read every book, etc.

Hear me: GOD ONLY WANTS YOU!!!! He doesn't care about fancy schmancy! He wants your heart and soul. Whatever you do will be GOOD ENOUGH! Sigh.

Ok  - end of lesson. HA

My New Motto: K.I.S.S. - Keep It Simple Silly! If it doesn't bring peace and isn't simple - it's out for this year's Lent!  Here is how I plan to (honestly and simply) live the three pillars of Lent this year.

1) Prayer - Prayer is simply a conversation with God. I talk to Him so much. I'm so thankful. But during Lent, we must purpose to pray clearer and seek the cleaning out of our hearts and souls. My prayer of choice this Lent, purposing to say the Rosary, daily.  I am not proud of the suffering and bad attitude I have suffered this past year or so. What I can do, is change ME. Praying the Rosary is medicine to my soul and I miss it. But when I got down, I decided I was forsaken and in exchange, I forsook. Sigh. The below picture, it used to be what I felt. And I am purposing to get back there. My Mother is calling me.


You can choose your own prayer. Call on the Saints. So many great Catholic Prayers. Also - get to Mass more. <3 Get in front of Jesus y'all.

2) Almsgiving - during Lent, we purpose to help others. I don't have a lot of extra cash this year, but we will focus on giving to our local food banks. We volunteer a lot at our Parish and are a giving family. When we can do more, we will.

3) Fasting/Abstinence - In the Catholic Church, Fasting on certain days of our Liturgical Calendar involves eating two small meals and one regular meal on any given day of Fasting. There are different rules for the sick, pregnant women and children, of course. There are only two days during Lent where Fasting is required - Ash Wednesday AND Good Friday.

All year, we must either Abstain from (give up/don't eat) meat on Fridays or we have to perform another penance. However, during Lent, we must abstain from meat on Ash Wednesday, and all Fridays during Lent. If, for any reason you can not abstain, you must perform another penitential act. In my house, we like fish, so this is not hard for us. We will likely add one other day/week as meatless to further add to our sacrifice.

For me, personally, I am limiting my time on Social Media, and we have given up Starbucks as a family. This last one may sound silly to you. BUT if you knew how much we spent on Starbucks, and how budget conscious we are purposing to be, you'd know that we need to do this, along with a litany of other things.

There are other things we are sacrificing, but those are private.

Additionally, I wanted to make sure you all understand that Sundays ARE in fact included in Lent. Sigh. Here's a helpful link to explain Sundays in Lent.

Some Helpful Links:

Message From Our Holy Father - Please read this if nothing else. Here is just a small portion. I love him. I truly love our Pope. Mostly because he is our leader AND he explains it so well.


Lent with Lucia - her instructions are simple. And I like simple these days.

Whatever you are doing this Lent, let it be something that draw you closer to Our Lord, Our Faith and  keeps you on your path toward Heaven! I'm so happy to have met you and crossed paths with you on our walk. <3

God bless you and keep you this Lenten Season dear readers.

Hugs & blessings,
Emily

Wednesday, January 24, 2018

Today's (well, January 20th) Gospel Reflection - Catholicmom.com




Hi all,

A few days ago, I had a Gospel Reflection post on Catholicmom.com. Unfortunately their site was down and I couldn't share the link.

I'm hopeful that you will go back and read my little reflection from this past Saturday, on the Gospel of Mark, 3:20-21.

My Key Phrase: Do we choose to let fear separate us from Christ OR stand by Him and learn from Him?

Check it out - HERE!

AND - while you are at it, sign up to read the Daily Gospel Reflections. There are hundreds of writers and fabulous perspectives.

Catholicmom.com Daily Gospel Reflections

Hugs & Blessings,

Em

Monday, January 22, 2018

Respect Life... I Am A Murderer

Happy National Respect Life Day in the USA!

Tonight my family and I will perhaps participate in the Rose Procession, my son will serve, we will attend Mass and a reception/potluck after.

This morning, when I was speaking with the organizer, she asked if I wanted to be in the procession and I said, I wasn't sure because I'd had an abortion and I don't know how I will react to this whole experience. This will be my first Respect Life Mass, mostly because I am too scared to have gone before.

November 10th, 1982, I willingly had an abortion. I was in an abusive relationship, and I did not have great parenting (my mother was very abusive), but I feel like if I was a stronger person, I'd have had that baby and the other babies I aborted. It's not enough to say that I wasn't Catholic. It's not enough to say I was very lost. There are really NOT enough words to say how much this has affected my life.

I can tell you everything that happened that first date.. and much of what happened on the others. But to be honest, I was so lost by then, well, years of therapy later, and PTSD for the abuse I endured...I figure my brain can't grasp the enormity of it all. Anyway...

The truth is, I am a murderer. I don't look like a typical murderer, but we all know that is what it boils down to.

ABORTION IS MURDER!
ABORTION DOES NOT SOLVE A "BAD SITUATION!"
ABORTION HURTS THE MOTHER'S SOUL!
ABORTION IS LIFE-LONG PAIN.

But still, when I was speaking to her on the phone, and I said, "I'm sorry to blurt that out there like that. I hope I have not made myself look too bad in your eyes!"  She said, no, not at all. You're so brave for going on with your life. I don't know how you could not want to kill yourself."

This young girl, did not mean to hurt me in any way. She didn't. The magnitude of her words is TRUE! It's true. It's hard to live with. The thought of taking my own life, for many reasons, has occurred to me.  But that is not the purpose of this post.

I just want to say this...

If people knew how hard living with all this was, they would only offer comfort. I am just as forgiven as they are for their sins. It's just that my sin is marked by occasions in our Church, so it's hard to let it go.
It doesn't matter if your words don't mean to hurt... sometimes they do.
I will not be telling this person that she hurt my feelings until I can do it with grace.
  • She didn't know that I got pregnant the first time I had sex.
  • She didn't know that I asked my father what he'd do and he said he'd keep the baby and toss me out.
  • She doesn't know how far I've come.
  • She isn't wrong. It's just that her words are not necessary. 
Please be gentle with people living with the guilt and angst of abortion in their past.
We are called to forgive and show compassion.

Perhaps everyone could read Pope John Paul II's Words - A Special Word to Women Who Have Had Abortion or Pope Francis' Words on Abortion HERE.

Some of Pope Francis' words:
That said, the Catholic Church's stance on abortion has not changed -- it is still viewed as a "grave sin." But it makes it easier for women who have had abortions to be absolved for their actions, and rejoin the church. 
"I wish to restate as firmly as I can that abortion is a grave sin, since it puts an end to an innocent life," the Pope's letter states.
"In the same way, however, I can and must state that there is no sin that God's mercy cannot reach and wipe away when it finds a repentant heart seeking to be reconciled with the Father."
The letter continues: "May every priest, therefore, be a guide, support and comfort to penitents on this journey of special reconciliation.
"I henceforth grant to all priests, in virtue of their ministry, the faculty to absolve those who have committed the sin of procured abortion."
When you come across someone who had an abortion, please be kind and compassionate. And for heaven's sake don't give them any big ideas or remind them how bad it is.. THEY KNOW! It's embarrassing, humiliating, self-denigrating and very hard to walk with.

I just wanted to get that off my chest.

And yes, I have forgiven myself, but I also won't lie to myself. My sins of abortion are MORTAL in nature. But I'm so blessed to have a strong faith and to be forgiven.

Thank you Jesus. Amen!

Love, Hugs & Blessings,

Emily


Silence IS NOT Always Golden...

Dear Ones, When I was growing up, there was a saying I heard often, which was "silence is Golden". As a mom, we wish for silence...